2. Caregiver Strength Determination

Determination

  • Resolve
  • Purpose
  • Willpower

As a Caregiver, a strength you may reveal – is Determination in the face of the unknown.

The Caregiver Strength of Determination

Determination is incredible because it will help you to continue, even when you are not getting, the answers you need, to move forward in any direction.

When you are caring and supporting a Loved One,

You may even continue your determination beyond the point, where many other people, would give up or may not continue. Care of a loved one until or

Like getting up in the middle of the night, when you have gotten no sleep at all.

Day after day, month after month, year after year, helping in every way possible.

Determination is doing something until it is done.

Caregiver Story of Determination

I never even thought when I accepted Caregiving my Loved One,

 I would ever need determination!

Some days were easy and I loved caring for my Loved One.

Other days were as hard as nails, and I didn’t know which way to turn.

This particular day, was when I was going to take our first respite care, I can understand why only 17% take up the offer.

To give my family and I a little break.

A friend, who worked at a Nursing Home, who asked if I needed some extra rest.

I thought about it and arranged it, to be the next week.

We would need to take a 1 hour car ride, both ways and then face the farewell challenge.

All was going to plan, I thought, I was feeling dreadful for taking a break.

It was like I had to be some kind of spy to get a few moments off.

The hardest part was the phone call from the Nursing home the next day – asking does my Loved One normally knock on the door continuously, trying to get out?

I didn’t need that. Those words broke my heart.

All the emotions just came tumbling out with the tears –

Tired, worried, afraid, scared, anxious, troubled, alarmed, uneasy & upset!

So for my Loved One’s change was not easy and safety a priority.

I used determination to communicate with family members, so they may get a glimpse of understanding.

I needed determination to communicate with (professional) staff.

Remember you have the willpower, the resolve, the purpose to see this through!

Is Determination a strength of yours?- What else are your Strengths?

 

This is part of the Top 20 Caregiver Strength Series

Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are Incredible

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“I have a dream today

I have a dream that one day every valley of financial challenges will e exalted.

Every hill and mountain of physical challenges will be made low,

The rough places of social challenges will be made plain,

And the crooked places of psychological challenges will be made straight and

Emotional challenges of all fresh shall see it together,

Getting strength for today and hope for tomorrow!” – Annie Born

 

As a Caregiver you may not understand some of the risks of Caregiving.

Research has shown, Caregiving can affect your life in these 5 ways

  1. financial,
  2. physical,
  3. social,
  4. psychological,
  5. emotional

The average caregiver is contributing more then $200 per month to caring for a Loved one.

If the Caregiver is self employed, the time is absorbed in less work achieved and less income.

The average caregiver has their physical life impacted,

Either by having a Loved one at home or

Needing to visit a Loved one in their own home or

A Loved One who needs more care then they can handle.

The average Caregiver has their social, psychological & emotional life impacted more then they ever thought.

The interesting thing is sometimes,

Even when the Loved One is being cared by another person,

The Caregiver is often wondering how the Loved One is – coping, enjoying or doing?

Instead of bringing relief, it can be made a more stressful, time.

If you don’t manage you too!

Remember – You need to turn off too, so you can have a break!

You need to take time out for you!

You need to give yourself the gift of time to make time fill your Care Tank.

So often a caregiver is so busy, they forget to go to even visit the doctor for themselves!

Remember – this is important because you cannot live on nothing – you need to eat too!

Research has shown for caregivers over 55, more will die before the person they are caring for,

Not because of a illness they had before, but because they stopped caring for themselves!

That is the reason you are the critical connection!

Critical connection for you and your Loved One to the world!

You need to understand, you need strength for today and hope for tomorrow!

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“I have a dream today

I have a dream where Caring for Caregivers will be transformed into a daily gift

Each caregiver gives themselves, everyday, often filling their care tank,

As a part of caring for the community, city, country, whole world, including you!” – Annie Born

 

As a Caregiver it can be so easy to give and

Keep giving until there is nothing left to give or until y Care tank is empty.

If we give from a heart of love,

You would thing you would naturally remember to care for ourselves.

Sometimes overtime though, we tend to get BUSY!

  • Busy organising this…
  • Busy helping another person
  • Busy caring for this issue
  • Busy finding a solution for that problem
  • Busy checking in with your Loved One
  • Busy cleaning another mess
  • Busy managing
  • Busy washing the clothes
  • Busy with Doctors visits
  • Busy wondering what the best solution is
  • Busy communicating with family
  • Busy updating the professionals
  • Busy studying the best options
  • Busy getting one professional to do what another professional asks
  • Busy preparing & calming your Loved One

It can be a time where giving yourself a gift of time seems almost impossible.

Yet, mananging this important gift is even more important then any other challenge.

You face as a Caregiver.

You see, the gift of time is to give you something important.

Something tangable, a time for you to do whatever you want or need to do for you.

A time for you to be centered in the eye of the storm of life.

A time for you to fill your Care Tank!

You see, when your care tank is full,

You can help other people more easily.

You support others from a space of abundance

How can you re-energize your own care tank?

When you give yourself the gift of time to yourself.

The gift of the Care Tank to yourself.

Everyday, remember to care for you!

You are invaluable

Because when you care for You – You are impacting the community, city, country the world!

 

 

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“I have a dream where my three children will one day,

Live in a world where they will be encouraged and

Supported for caring for themselves

While they manage & care for loved ones.

Allowing – illness, injury or age to be a natural part of life,

Speaking out & Breaking the silence,

Being open to caring for themselves

While caregiving their Loved Ones.” – Annie Born

 

When you are a Care giver at home.

Often one of the last words you hear is Thank you!

Thank you for everything that you do,

Thank you for all your help,

Thank you for all your support

Thank you for all your giving.

Sometimes, when you care for a Loved One,

You may want to talk with a friend or family member about  your latest,

loss, restentment or challenge

If the other people doesn’t understand, what you are going through.

You can almost immediately see, the other person’s eyes begin to roll.

You know, they are not listening or interesting in listening.

Because, often people want you to keep it quiet, hush, hush.

To keep it under raps.

To hide it behind closed doors,

To keep it within the walls of your house.

It’s time to break the silence of hush, hush.

It’s time to be bold about Caregiving,

It’s time to be bold about Caring for the Caregiver.

It’s time to speak out about the importance of caring for the caregiver.

Whether your Loved one needs, help paying bills, changing a dressing or getting dressed.

You are helping your Loved One in something that he/she is not able to do alone at the moment or anymore.

Whether it is an illness, that is progressive, or because of injury or age.

You can learn Caregiver it can be a natural part of life.

A space to be expected, to care for the Loved One.

Thank you for your critical connection to the world.

For your willingness to take time out and Care for You!

Care for the Caregiver.

Because, careforthecaregiver.org is here to give you Strength for today and Hope for tomorrow!

 

 

 

 

 

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“I have a dream that one day even in the most remote homes around the world!

People will have access to leading edge resources for caregivers to discover,

While caring for a loved one – how to care for themselves!

And will be transformed into caregivers who understand.

Their Unique Strengths, Individual Skills and Care Committment.

Giving an oasis of safety, peace, love and freedom.” – Annie Born

 

When you are at home as a Caregiver,

You may be alone or with the help of family members.

Doing the best you can, with the information, training & knowledge you have.

You may not have friends or community – Who understand…

What your experiencing or have a clue of what your going through.

Managing the doctors, the specialists, the appointments, the bills, the choices, the house work, the decisions.

The joys, the tears, the frustrations, the guilt, the memories, the gifts

Busy days, turn into busy weeks, busy months, busy years.

Soon as a Caregiver, you may forget,

Who you are,

What is important to you,

Your special times and even your dreams.

Or even not remembering to take the time – you need for yourself.

For your own doctors appointment, visit with a friend or salon appointment.

Without excellent Caregiver Resources, you may not understand, the difficult risks or challenges.

Risks, you unconsciously, yet naturally take, when You care for Your Loved One.

And choose to take care of your Loved one at home, who is suffering from illness, injury or age.

Up to 24/7 or 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. caring for your Loved one,

Yes, every day, you are a critical connection for your Loved One to the world.

You may not know how important it is, for you to care for you.

For you to take the time to to do the little things in your life,

To Care for the Caregiver.