Caregiver Guilt Part 10

Why doesn’t anyone want to talk about Caregiver Guilt Part 10?

Is guilt the Caregiver’s silent shame?

So what is the silent shame of Caregiver Guilt?

It is that feeling in the pit of your gut, you know everything isn’t right with your world?

Yet you feel powerless, to do anything about it?

  • Not being able to keep promises?
  • Have negative thoughts?
  • Family Conflict?

You want to make it better, yet, you are not sure how, and it’s will be another day, soon?

 “Can’t someone else help just one day a week?!”

The question is are you wasting a lot of energy on an emotion which has no benefit for your or your Loved One?

Caregivers are Human Too Caregivers often put the needs of their Loved One ahead of the needs of themselves. Thinking they should be patient, loving & kind all the time, but the truth is Caregivers are human. When our own needs aren’t being met it becomes increasingly difficult to meet the needs of someone who cannot take care of him/herself.

Caregivers Glasses – Research has shown, caregivers often have unrealistic expectations of themselves. We don’t use the same glasses for ourselves as we do others. We use rose coloured glasses for our family & friends and for supporting them, so things are a little brighter in colour and 20/20 standard vision.

Yet went we look at supporting our own challenges, we put on magnifying glasses 40x when we look at our own challenges, so things seem bigger and easier to repeat over and over again, so close.

Yet, Caregivers often mistake the feeling of guilt with the feeling of resentment.

Whether it is self imposed or imposed upon us, it is important to remember it often leads to feelings of resentment and depression.

What’s Healthy? It’s perfectly normal and acceptable to regret how yours & your loved one’s life has changed as a result of an illness or injury. It’s natural to feel tremendous sadness & disappointment over the progress of a disease.

What’s Not Healthy? It is not healthy for you to stop living your life and accept the responsibility of your Loved One’s condition. You didn’t cause it, You can’t change it! If your body is still healthy, if you can still pursue work/career. If you can enjoy being with family and friends feel grateful not guilty.

If you are experiencing any stressor due to caregiving or life, remember talking to someone as a sounding board can help put things into perspective. A doctor or health professional can also help.

Next time you feel the silent shame/guilt monster closing in on you.

It’s time to start reframing, your thinking.

Understand there will be times when everything seems to go wrong.

When those things do happen, give yourself permission to be human.

Accept that not every day is sunshine, there are rainy days, cloudy days and even cyclone days.

Know you are ok! You are enough!  You are your Loved One’s critical connection to the world.

Today write down 3 things, you are thankful for.

Remember you were created to be you!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are incredible!

 

Caregiver Guilt Part 9

Why doesn’t anyone want to talk about Caregiver Guilt Part 9?

Is guilt the Caregiver’s silent shame?

So what is the silent shame of Caregiver Guilt?

It is that feeling in the pit of your gut, you know everything isn’t right with your world?

Yet you feel powerless, to do anything about it?

  • Family Conflict?
  • Have negative thoughts?
  • Wanting some free time?

You want to make it better, yet, you are not sure how, and it’s will be another day, soon?

 “The Police are asking questions about my parent now!”

The question is, are you wasting a lot of energy on an emotion which has no benefit for you or your Loved One?

Caregivers often get caught up in the spiralling cycle of anger followed by guilt

Whether it is self imposed or imposed upon us, it is important to remember it often leads to feelings of resentment and depression

Caregivers are Human Too Caregivers often put the needs of their Loved One ahead of the needs of themselves. Thinking they should be patient, loving & kind all the time, but the truth is Caregivers are human. When our own needs aren’t being met it becomes increasingly difficult to meet the needs of someone who cannot take care of him/herself.

Yet, Caregivers often mistake the feeling of guilt with the feeling of resentment.

What’s Healthy?It’s perfectly normal and acceptable to regret how yours & your loved one’s life has changed as a result of an illness or injury. It’s natural to feel tremendous sadness & disappointment over the progress of a disease.

What’s Not Healthy? It is not healthy for you to stop living your life and accept the responsibility of your Loved One’s condition. You didn’t cause it, You can’t change it! If your body is still healthy, if you can still pursue work/career. If you can enjoy being with family and friends feel grateful not guilty.

If you are experiencing any stressor due to caregiving or life, remember talking to someone as a sounding board can help put things into perspective. A doctor or health professional can also help.

Next time you feel the silent shame/guilt monster closing in on your.

It’s time to start reframing, your thinking.

Instead of thinking I feel guilty about…

Say…

I am angry with my Loved One, and I regret I have negative feelings toward him/her right now.

Or…

I need some time to myself and I regret that this causes stress for him/her.

Or if you can’t identify what it is simply acknowledge this.

I am carrying a heavy burden and I regret that I feel resentful about that.

Understand there will be times when you don’t like the way you feel towards your loved one.

When those things do happen, give yourself permission to be human.

Say you are sorry when you should.

Allow yourself to feel and express regret for the emotion or event & then move on.

You will feel more positive & energised when you focus on something that makes you feel good about yourself and your Loved One

Today write down 3 emotions you are feeling today.

Remember you were created to be you!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are gifted!

Caregiver Guilt Part 8

Why doesn’t anyone want to talk about Caregiver Guilt Part 8?

Is guilt the Caregiver’s silent shame?

So what is the silent shame of Caregiver Guilt?

It is that feeling in the pit of your gut, you know everything isn’t right with your world?

Yet you feel powerless, to do anything about it?

  • Have negative thoughts?
  • Did you lose your temper?
  • Sometimes wish your Loved One’s suffering to just end.

You want to make it better, yet, you are not sure how, and it’s will be another day, soon?

 “He/She spent all night on the floor!”

The question is are you wasting a lot of energy on an emotion which has no benefit for you or your Loved One?

Caregivers often get caught up in the spiralling cycle of anger followed by guilt

Whether it is self imposed or imposed upon us, it is important to remember it often leads to feelings of resentment and depression.

Yet, Caregivers often mistake the feeling of guilt with the feeling of resentment.

What is Guilt? Remember – guilt is the feeling we experience when we intentionally cause physical or emotional harm to another person.

What is Resentment? Resentment is the feeling of sadness or disappointment over something that has happened or been done. We regret a loss or a missed opportunity.

If you are experiencing any stressor due to caregiving or life, remember talking to someone as a sounding board can help put things into perspective. A doctor or health professional can also help.

Next time you feel the silent shame/guilt monster closing in on your.

It’s time to start reframing, your thinking.

Instead of thinking I feel guilty about…

Say…

I am angry with my Loved One, and I regret I have negative feelings toward him/her right now.

Or…

I need some time to myself and I regret that this causes stress for him/her.

Or if you can’t identify what it is simply acknowledge this.

I am carrying a heavy burden and I regret that I feel resentful about that.

Understand there will be times when you say and do things that you wish you hadn’t.

When those things do happen, give yourself permission to be human.

Say you are sorry when you should.

Allow yourself to feel and express regret for the emotion or event & then move on.

You will feel more positive & energised when you focus on something that makes you feel good about yourself and your Loved One

Today write down 3 things you can express regret for – for you today.

Remember you were created to be you!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are brilliant!

Caregiver Guilt Part 7

Why doesn’t anyone want to talk about Caregiver Guilt Part 7?

Is guilt the Caregiver’s silent shame?

So what is the silent shame of Caregiver Guilt?

It is that feeling in the pit of your gut, you know everything isn’t right with your world?

Yet you feel powerless, to do anything about it?

  • ·         Family Conflict?
  • ·         Have negative thoughts?
  • ·         You aren’t always as loving, kind & patient as you would like to be?

You want to make it better, yet, you are not sure how, and it’s will be another day, soon?

 “He/She collapsed and was taken to the hospital, I couldn’t find him/her for 5 hours!

The question is are you wasting a lot of energy on an emotion which has no benefit for you or your Loved One?

Caregivers often get caught up in the spiralling cycle of anger followed by guilt

Whether it is self imposed or imposed upon us, it is important to remember it often leads to feelings of resentment and depression.

Caregivers are Human Too Caregivers often put the needs of their Loved One ahead of the needs of themselves. Thinking they should be patient, loving & kind all the time, but the truth is Caregivers are human. When our own needs aren’t being met it becomes increasingly difficult to meet the needs of someone who cannot take care of him/herself

Yet, Caregivers often mistake the feeling of guilt with the feeling of resentment.

What is Guilt? Remember – guilt is the feeling we experience when we intentionally cause physical or emotional harm to another person.

What is Resentment? Resentment is the feeling of sadness or disappointment over something that has happened or been done. We regret a loss or a missed opportunity.

If you are experiencing any stressor due to caregiving or life, remember talking to someone as a sounding board can help put things into perspective. A doctor or health professional can also help.

Next time you feel the silent shame/guilt monster closing in on your.

It’s time to start reframing, your thinking.

Instead of thinking I feel guilty about…

Say…

I am angry with my Loved One, and I regret I have negative feelings toward him/her right now.

Or…

I need some time to myself and I regret that this causes stress for him/her.

Or if you can’t identify what it is simply acknowledge this.

I am carrying a heavy burden and I regret that I feel resentful about that.

Understand that caring for an aging, chronically ill or disabled person is extremely stressful.

Accept that some days you will get angry.

When those things do happen, give yourself permission to be human.

Say you are sorry when you should.

Allow yourself to feel and express regret for the emotion or event & then move on.

You will feel more positive & energised when you focus on something that makes you feel good about yourself and your Loved One.

Today write down 1 thing you could be angry about.

Remember you were created to be you!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are exceptional!

Caregiver Guilt Part 6

Why doesn’t anyone want to talk about Caregiver Guilt Part 6?

Is guilt the Caregiver’s silent shame?

So what is the silent shame of Caregiver Guilt?

It is that feeling in the pit of your gut, you know everything isn’t right with your world?

Yet you feel powerless, to do anything about it?

  • Losing your temper?
  • Having negative thoughts?
  • Not able to keep promises?

You want to make it better, yet, you are not sure how, and it’s will be another day, soon?

 “I can’t find my Loved One!”

The question is, are you wasting a lot of energy on an emotion which has no benefit for you or your Loved One?

Caregivers often get caught up in the spiralling cycle of anger followed by guilt

Whether it is self imposed or imposed upon us, it is important to remember it often leads to feelings of resentment and depression

Yet, Caregivers often mistake the feelinresentments with the feeling of resentment..

What’s Healthy? It’s perfectly normal and acceptable to regret how yours & your loved one’s life has changed as a result of an illness or injury. It’s natural to feel tremendous sadness & disappointment over the progress of a disease.

What’s Not Healthy? It is not healthy for you to stop living your life and accept the responsibility of your Loved One’s condition. You didn’t cause it, You can’t change it! If your body is still healthy, if you can still pursue work/career. If you can enjoy being with family and friends feel grateful not guilty.

If you are experiencing any stressor due to caregiving or experiencing life, remember talking to someone as a sounding board can help put things into perspective. A doctor or health professional can also help.

Next time you feel the silent shame/guilt monster closing in on your.

It’s time to start reframing, your thinking.

Instead of thinking I feel guilty about…

Say…

I am angry with my Loved One, and I regret I have negative feelings toward him/her right now.

Or…

I need some time to myself and I regret that this causes stress for him/her.

Or if you can’t identify what it is simply acknowledge this.

I am carrying a heavy burden and I regret that I feel resentful about that.

Understand that caring for an aging, chronically ill or disabled person is extremely stressful.

Accept that some days you will get angry.

When those things do happen, give yourself permission to be human.

Say you are sorry when you should.

Allow yourself to feel and express regret for the emotion or event & then move on.

You will feel more positive & energised when you focus on something that makes you feel good about yourself and your Loved One.

Today write down 1 thing you would like to say sorry for.

Remember you were created to be you!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are talented!