8. Caregiver Strength Competency


  • Capability
  • Ability
  • Skill

As a Caregiver, a strength you may reveal – is Competency in the face of the unknown.

Do remember it is also important for you to use competency for you and your needs as a Caregiver.

Competency is often resting in reality

The Caregiver Strength of Competency

Competency is incredible because it will help you to continue, even when you are not getting, the answers you need, to move forward in any direction.

When you are caring and supporting a Loved One,

The first time you do something new, you may feel like a beginner.

Its ok, everybody does, the difference between an amateur and a professional

Is the professional has done it 100x more, then you have.

You may see competency in medical or professional staff or

Competency is something that is earned and learned.

Through lots of practice, and consistent – persistence. You will get it!

Caregiver Story of Competency

The first time a Social Worker came to assess my Loved One.

We were all nervous, and concerned, wondering

Whether we would say and do the right things.

After many visits, my competency as a caregiver improved.

I was beginning to understand what the Assessment was all about.

I could become more able to prepare for the visit.

When we first visited the Specialist, again we wondered what it was all about.

Then by visit 5, we had a little more capability as to what would happen.

Learning new experiences can be exciting and a corridor to help and support.

Remember you have the ability, the skill, and capability to see this through!

Is Competency a strength of yours?- What else are your Strengths?

This is part of the Top 20 Caregiver Strength Series

Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are Incredible

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“I have a dream where my three children will one day,

Live in a world where they will be encouraged and

Supported for caring for themselves

While they manage & care for loved ones.

Allowing – illness, injury or age to be a natural part of life,

Speaking out & Breaking the silence,

Being open to caring for themselves

While caregiving their Loved Ones.” – Annie Born


When you are a Care giver at home.

Often one of the last words you hear is Thank you!

Thank you for everything that you do,

Thank you for all your help,

Thank you for all your support

Thank you for all your giving.

Sometimes, when you care for a Loved One,

You may want to talk with a friend or family member about  your latest,

loss, restentment or challenge

If the other people doesn’t understand, what you are going through.

You can almost immediately see, the other person’s eyes begin to roll.

You know, they are not listening or interesting in listening.

Because, often people want you to keep it quiet, hush, hush.

To keep it under raps.

To hide it behind closed doors,

To keep it within the walls of your house.

It’s time to break the silence of hush, hush.

It’s time to be bold about Caregiving,

It’s time to be bold about Caring for the Caregiver.

It’s time to speak out about the importance of caring for the caregiver.

Whether your Loved one needs, help paying bills, changing a dressing or getting dressed.

You are helping your Loved One in something that he/she is not able to do alone at the moment or anymore.

Whether it is an illness, that is progressive, or because of injury or age.

You can learn Caregiver it can be a natural part of life.

A space to be expected, to care for the Loved One.

Thank you for your critical connection to the world.

For your willingness to take time out and Care for You!

Care for the Caregiver.

Because, careforthecaregiver.org is here to give you Strength for today and Hope for tomorrow!






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“I have a dream that one day even in the most remote homes around the world!

People will have access to leading edge resources for caregivers to discover,

While caring for a loved one – how to care for themselves!

And will be transformed into caregivers who understand.

Their Unique Strengths, Individual Skills and Care Committment.

Giving an oasis of safety, peace, love and freedom.” – Annie Born


When you are at home as a Caregiver,

You may be alone or with the help of family members.

Doing the best you can, with the information, training & knowledge you have.

You may not have friends or community – Who understand…

What your experiencing or have a clue of what your going through.

Managing the doctors, the specialists, the appointments, the bills, the choices, the house work, the decisions.

The joys, the tears, the frustrations, the guilt, the memories, the gifts

Busy days, turn into busy weeks, busy months, busy years.

Soon as a Caregiver, you may forget,

Who you are,

What is important to you,

Your special times and even your dreams.

Or even not remembering to take the time – you need for yourself.

For your own doctors appointment, visit with a friend or salon appointment.

Without excellent Caregiver Resources, you may not understand, the difficult risks or challenges.

Risks, you unconsciously, yet naturally take, when You care for Your Loved One.

And choose to take care of your Loved one at home, who is suffering from illness, injury or age.

Up to 24/7 or 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. caring for your Loved one,

Yes, every day, you are a critical connection for your Loved One to the world.

You may not know how important it is, for you to care for you.

For you to take the time to to do the little things in your life,

To Care for the Caregiver.

Caregiver Stress Part 6

Have you ever had a guest stay at your house for longer then the comfortable 3 days?

Research shows, usually after about 3 days, people can get on your nerves, your toes, or both.

Some days it can feel like the last straw of the day!

Perhaps you suggest, to your guest, possible outings or places to visit.

And when it’s time for your guests to go home,

It’s been a lovely time together,

And you are glad to see them get safely to their home

You get a moment to breathe a sigh of relief!

Because, Life is back to normal!

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors also. Today, let’s look at one often forgotten area “Physical.”

Your place is your castle, isn’t it?

Sometimes it’s not easy to just have your place as you want it.

You have visitors come for a meal or to stay,

And it can be awkward at times, because your Loved One,

Doesn’t always understand social norms.

So your physical place isn’t always your own safe space.

And sometimes your physical space isn’t always a safe space for your Loved One & Visitors.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

Yet when you are aware – You can make little changes to help.

What are some ways you can create and have some safe space just for you?

Who is your Lifeline, who can you call on, to help, at a moments notice to help you care for your Loved One, for a few minutes for a quick interruption or appointment or a day or two for a hospital visit or weekend mini holiday?

Remember your physical space is important too!

Having the support you need is critical for Your Care!

Write a list of Who are Your Lifelines?

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are tangible!