I Have A Dream 4 of 4

“I have a dream today

I have a dream that one day every valley of financial challenges will e exalted.

Every hill and mountain of physical challenges will be made low,

The rough places of social challenges will be made plain,

And the crooked places of psychological challenges will be made straight and

Emotional challenges of all fresh shall see it together,

Getting strength for today and hope for tomorrow!” – Annie Born

 

As a Caregiver you may not understand some of the risks of Caregiving.

Research has shown, Caregiving can affect your life in these 5 ways

  1. financial,
  2. physical,
  3. social,
  4. psychological,
  5. emotional

The average caregiver is contributing more then $200 per month to caring for a Loved one.

If the Caregiver is self employed, the time is absorbed in less work achieved and less income.

The average caregiver has their physical life impacted,

Either by having a Loved one at home or

Needing to visit a Loved one in their own home or

A Loved One who needs more care then they can handle.

The average Caregiver has their social, psychological & emotional life impacted more then they ever thought.

The interesting thing is sometimes,

Even when the Loved One is being cared by another person,

The Caregiver is often wondering how the Loved One is – coping, enjoying or doing?

Instead of bringing relief, it can be made a more stressful, time.

If you don’t manage you too!

Remember – You need to turn off too, so you can have a break!

You need to take time out for you!

You need to give yourself the gift of time to make time fill your Care Tank.

So often a caregiver is so busy, they forget to go to even visit the doctor for themselves!

Remember – this is important because you cannot live on nothing – you need to eat too!

Research has shown for caregivers over 55, more will die before the person they are caring for,

Not because of a illness they had before, but because they stopped caring for themselves!

That is the reason you are the critical connection!

Critical connection for you and your Loved One to the world!

You need to understand, you need strength for today and hope for tomorrow!

Caregiver Stress part 10

Hey Dad, can I have, $30 I’m going to the movies with friends…

Hey Mum, can I have, $50 I need new shoes…

Hey Son, I can’t afford to get my heart medicine this week…

Hey Daughter, I need to get a walker, I’m becoming too fragile to walk with a stick anymore…

The first two statements as parents we are expecting, our kids need help.

The last two statements we may not be expecting our parents needing financial help with medicine or items to help support them to live at home.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, Today let’s look at Financial

Research shows, the average, Caregiver is contributing more then $250 per month to help care for their Loved One.

That is at least $62.50 per week, that’s a minimum of $3250 per year.

If you are struggling to eet the needs of growing children & aging parents, you are part of the Sandwich Generation.

62% of Caregivers work full or part time.

Then come hope to work an additional 36 hours per week.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

This is the Financial Health Hazards.

Yet when you are aware, you can make little changes.

Today write down who or what ways, you can ask family or friends to help support your Loved One financially?

Remember you were created to be a critical connection!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You lend a hand!

Informal Caregiver to Informed Caregiver?

So what is the difference? Between an Informal Caregiver & an Informed Caregiver?

Skills in Caregiving & Caring for the Care Giver! 

All skills in life are learned like:-

  •      Walking,
  •      Holding a pencil,
  •      Colouring,
  •      Reading,
  •      Writing,
  •      Riding a bike or
  •      Driving a car.

And learned skills take time and practice to become capable, often with a few scratches, bumps and bruises to heal or repair.

Who are the Encouragers, Mentors or Coaches Today?

In the good old days, a Caregiver would see how to Care for a Loved One by watching and being encouraged by a family member, mentored by a neighbor or coached by other people around them, as many other family & community members would be doing the same thing, caring for their Loved One.

Today Caregivers often don’t have other family members to encourage them, or neighbors or other people to Mentor them in Caregiving. They don’t see how other people care for their loved ones because caregiving is often hidden away, they stay in their space or room.

When they are at work, it’s often not appropriate to talk about what’s happening at home.

Big Hidden Secret

So Caregiving becomes a big hidden secret.

Which cannot be talked about at work, because it’s unprofessional!

Which cannot be talked about at home, because that’s where it’s all happening!

So Caregivers try to talk to their  friends about this perhaps growing frustrated part of their lives, and their friends can only take so much!

So the Big Hidden Secret – Stays Secret. We are only as well as our deepest secret. 

Informal Caregiver Risks

Primary (Main) Caregivers and their families may be in constant Crisis Mode.

Because Caregiving can become this unacceptable, unspoken, unexpressed part of their life.

 So an Informal Caregiver can bottle up their emotions of caregiving until they can become stressed, depressed or even burnt out and worst case scenario, may even end up in hospital themselves with caregiver burden, the Loved One who they were caring for, needing to handle change as well as, missing their Caregiver ?

Why?

Because the Caregiver had no avenue to express their hurt, anger, frustration or pain and they can implode and then the Critical Caregiver needs Critical Care themselves.

So how can we prevent this from happening?

Great question!

That is what CarefortheCaregiver.org is all about!

5 Ways to Break the Silence!

  1. It’s time to Express how You Feel! No More Secrets! Other people cannot read your mind. You need to Inform other people how you are travelling, even if it is to a stranger. Remember you can also journal your journey. 
  2. Take time with your Family to Have a Family Meeting where the Caregivers can sit & talk openly to family who are personally or distantly involved in a safe environment. Based on the latest research family are the “best support” during this time of Caregiving. (Unless you have no close relatives, then connecting with friends & neighbours who can support you at this time.) Scheduling time for You to Care for the Caregiver is Critical Now and in the future!
  3. Get a Care for the Caregiver Mentor/Coach or someone who will take the time to listen to the challenges and be a sounding board for your Caregiver Journey.
  4. Learn Lots and Become an Informed Caregiver become aware, knowledgeable & trained.
  5. Find a Safe Space to express Your emotions & pain, so you don’t bottle it up and implode, so you can stay healthy throughout your caregiving experience.

Create a great day!

 

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to say Linked, Informed & Educated & Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the world.

P.S. Your Creative!

Are You an Informed Caregiver?

So what is an Informed Caregiver?

Great Question!

Lets take a closer look at Informed Caregiver Definition

A person who is aware, knowledgeable & trained about Caregiving.

A person who is clued-up in information, well-versed in the facts, up to date in the latest skills & knowledge needed for Caregiving a Care-Receiver (family member or friend) often can be considered – awareness in the risks, learned in knowledge & understanding in the practical skills – may be deemed skilled because they are trained and knows how to care for the caregiver!

An Informed Caregiver is someone who has gone outside the standard box of expectations.

Searched for the important information, needed by a Caregiver and the Loved One/Care Receiver to live life.

Understand that things are continuously changing & are often improving so you can be prepared for changes and aware of the improvements, connecting with the world for your Loved One/Care Receiver.

Aware of the Risks involved in Caregiving and has implemented strategies to counteract those risks. Daily, Weekly, Monthly & Yearly. For the benefit of You the Caregiver taking Care of the Caregiver and your Loved One/Care Receiver, taking Care of their needs, physically, emotionally, socially etc.

Remembering to care for the whole world includes caring for You to!

You need to Care for Your needs, physically, emotionally , socially etc.

Understand or willing to learn the Practical Skills needed in Caring for the Caregiving.

There  are so many ways to discover these, 1 on 1, 1 on group, 1 on online, 1 on courses – Reading, watching others, talking with others, TV, YouTube, Membership Sites etc…

It is vitally important to realise you are not alone in this, there are on average 1 in 5 homes in your street who are caring for a Loved One/Care Receiver.

How can we break the silence!? Talk, Txt, Email, Write to someone today!

Well Done You have started!

Remember Transforming from being a Informal Caregiver to an Informed Caregiver starts with You!

 

Create a Great Day!

 

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember stay – linked, informed and educated & bring hope, health and happiness to this world.

P.S. You Are an Incredible!

 

Are You an Informal Caregiver?

So What is an Informal Caregiver?

Great question!

Lets take a closer look at Informal Caregiver…

A person who is untrained, un-knowledgeable & unaware about Caregiving.

A person who is untrained in the facts, un-knowledgeable in the information, unaware in the results or best practices in care & the skills needed for Caregiving a Care-Receiver (family member or friend) at Home – may be deemed unprofessional because they are Care giving re-actively -making it up as they go or on the fly.

The interesting statistic is there are on average 1 in 5 homes who are Informal Caregiver Homes!

In each of those home is a Caregiver Family, supporting a Loved One/Care-Receiver.

So for every 100 people you walk past at the shops 20 people are currently care giving a relative, or friend Now!

For some strange reason – Informal Caregivers seem ashamed to be seen.

Everything is done alone, out of sight, behind closed doors.

There is no need for anyone to go through this alone and no glory in trying.

When in fact what is required is not just a private sympathy & toleration but a public acknowledgement & proactive assistance.

There is like a silent army of Caregivers swimming in an invisible crowd of Caregivers everyday!

Because No one wants to talk about their Caregiving!

It’s almost a Cultural Challenge.

How Can We be Proud of Care giving!?

How can we stand tall, because we choose to be Caregivers?

How can we speak to others about our lives?

How can we break the silence!?

Well Done You have started!

Remember Transforming from being a Informal Caregiver to an Informed Caregiver starts with You!

Create a Great Day!

Annie

Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember stay – linked, informed and educated &  bring hope, health and happiness to this world.

P.S.  You Are an Inspiration!