Caregiver Stress part 10

Hey Dad, can I have, $30 I’m going to the movies with friends…

Hey Mum, can I have, $50 I need new shoes…

Hey Son, I can’t afford to get my heart medicine this week…

Hey Daughter, I need to get a walker, I’m becoming too fragile to walk with a stick anymore…

The first two statements as parents we are expecting, our kids need help.

The last two statements we may not be expecting our parents needing financial help with medicine or items to help support them to live at home.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, Today let’s look at Financial

Research shows, the average, Caregiver is contributing more then $250 per month to help care for their Loved One.

That is at least $62.50 per week, that’s a minimum of $3250 per year.

If you are struggling to eet the needs of growing children & aging parents, you are part of the Sandwich Generation.

62% of Caregivers work full or part time.

Then come hope to work an additional 36 hours per week.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

This is the Financial Health Hazards.

Yet when you are aware, you can make little changes.

Today write down who or what ways, you can ask family or friends to help support your Loved One financially?

Remember you were created to be a critical connection!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You lend a hand!

Caregiver Stress Part 9

Ever had friends visiting…from out of town.

When an unexpected family member arrives also from out of town!

You know, the reason the person is there.

To discuss the details of a combined family party coming.

You didn’t invite your current out of town friends to for travelling purposes.

Your family member is wanting to talk about things.

You obviously don’t want to discuss in-front of everyone.

You see the side glances, the long pauses, the deep breaths & the head shaking.

It can feel awkward, unpleasant, and uncomfortable.

Social challenges can happen regularly, so you politely talk to your family member on the corner of the table, quickly and say goodbye.

And then you can relax with your friend again.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, Today lets look at Social.

Whether social status, inappropriate words, choices of topic or connection challenges. Some social situations can be stressful for an individual or group.

Social stressors are typically the most frequent type of stressor, that people experience.

Perhaps, You want to invite friend/friends to stay the weekend, but your caring for your Loved One.

 And It’s just not socially acceptable or safe, for your friend/friends or your Loved One.

It can just cause, You to be stressed and that leads to everyone feeling uncomfortable, and awkward.

62% of Caregivers of all ages work full or part time and then come home to work up to an additional 36 hours a week, almost as much as an additional full time job!

Also as Caregivers emotions can interfere a lot with you social life.

As a Caregiver you need to avoid setting yourself up for an unhealthy future, if your not prepared. you can be setting yourself up for poor health.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

Yet when you are aware – You can make little changes to help.

Write how you can improve your Social Space, who can you call on to give you support, so you don’t need to feel guilty or worry about your Loved One while Your enjoying your social life?

Remember you were created to enjoy connecting – you are a social being – not a social doing!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are community!

Caregiver Stress Part 8

Ever caught a plane?

You are about to take off, the engine is loud, the wheels are moving.

Then finally quiet, you are safely in the air.

You are glad it made it safely in flight.

Except for some minor air turbulence,

And the natural movement in the air,

It’s a beautiful day!

The seatbelt light comes on – It’s time for landing already.

With a slight rough landing –

The plane finally stops.

You breathe a sigh of calm relief.

It is a safe trip.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, Today lets look at Emotional

Ever felt – overwhelmed, overloaded or overburdened emotionally?

You are a Caregiver.

Research found that Caregivers feel some form of Emotional Stress at some point during their Care giving.

It’s Ok!

It’s natural!

Change is the only thing constant in life!

There can be so many things to monitor, So many things to care for, So many things to organise, sometimes, caring for your own emotional needs are missed.

On challenging days are you noticing…

You eating or sleeping more or less then usual?

You spontaneously crying, feeling low energy, emotional numbness?

You feeling Anxiety, Out of control, Irritable, Angry or Resentment?

You Not remembering as usual, Difficulty concentrating or Making decisions?

If these symptoms continue, have a chat to your Doctor or Health Professional.

62% of Caregivers of all ages work full or part time and then come home to work up to an additional 36 hours a week, almost as much as an additional full time job!

Also as Caregivers emotions can interfere a lot with you social life & household chores.

As a Caregiver you need to avoid setting yourself up for an unhealthy future, if your not prepared. you can be setting yourself up for poor health.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

Yet when you are aware – You can make little changes to help.

Who or What helps you feel grounded?

Write Who is Your Lifeline? – who can you go and have a chat with, who when you said goodbye, you breathe a sigh of calm relief, because everything feels right with the world again?

Remember you are a critical connection for you & your Loved One!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are open!

Caregiver Stress Part 7

Remember walking on a fence that is taller, then the ground the person you are walking with is walking?

You are balancing to stay walking on the fence at the same speed as the other person.

Sometimes you even ask the person you are walking with – for help!

To get across a tricky space in the fence.

Sometimes you may even loose your balance and gravity wins and you fall off the fence.

And you jump back up on the fence to keep balancing, knowing you are safe.

Then all of a sudden the fence ends or you decide to walk with the other person, not the same focus on balancing needed.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, also. Today let’s look at Psychological.

Ever felt like your circumstances of caregiving were unexpected?;

Do you feel unprepared for caregiving?;

Do you feel like there was nothing you could do to prevent you becoming the caregiver from happening?

Research found that 52% of Caregivers feel some form of Psychological Stress at some point during their Care giving a Loved One.

It’s Ok!

It’s natural!

Change is the only thing constant in life! 

There can be so many things to monitor, So many things to care for, So many things to organise, sometimes, caring for your own psychological needs are missed.

Psychological Stressors can be hard to pick.

Because it’s often in a look or a word, or silence.

Remember at challenging times.

  • Stick to daily routine,
  • Break large jobs into smaller, manageable tasks,
  • Find activities that make you feel better,
  • Allow yourself to feel what you feel, when you feel it.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

If challenges persist talk with your doctor or health professional

Yet when you are aware – You can make little changes to help.

What or Who helps balance you?

Write down Your Psychological Lifelines?

Remember you are a whole person, with many gifts, talents & dreams!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are steady!

Caregiver Stress Part 6

Have you ever had a guest stay at your house for longer then the comfortable 3 days?

Research shows, usually after about 3 days, people can get on your nerves, your toes, or both.

Some days it can feel like the last straw of the day!

Perhaps you suggest, to your guest, possible outings or places to visit.

And when it’s time for your guests to go home,

It’s been a lovely time together,

And you are glad to see them get safely to their home

You get a moment to breathe a sigh of relief!

Because, Life is back to normal!

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors also. Today, let’s look at one often forgotten area “Physical.”

Your place is your castle, isn’t it?

Sometimes it’s not easy to just have your place as you want it.

You have visitors come for a meal or to stay,

And it can be awkward at times, because your Loved One,

Doesn’t always understand social norms.

So your physical place isn’t always your own safe space.

And sometimes your physical space isn’t always a safe space for your Loved One & Visitors.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

Yet when you are aware – You can make little changes to help.

What are some ways you can create and have some safe space just for you?

Who is your Lifeline, who can you call on, to help, at a moments notice to help you care for your Loved One, for a few minutes for a quick interruption or appointment or a day or two for a hospital visit or weekend mini holiday?

Remember your physical space is important too!

Having the support you need is critical for Your Care!

Write a list of Who are Your Lifelines?

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are tangible!