Trained Lifesaving

Imagine you are in a plane…

With your Loved One your caring for –

Flying at 10,000 feet in the air.

An emergency happens to the plane

And the oxygen masks drop down towards your face.

The plane is loosing cabin pressure fast!

You remember the in-flight training.

You know you must get your mask on and soon!

And you should put it on before helping anyone else.

But you hastily look over to your Loved One

Who can’t seem to get their mask on right & the tube is twisted!

So you hurry to help them get their oxygen mask on.

Skipping putting yours on.

In the mean time you can almost hear-

Your heart beating through your ears.

Your whole body is screaming!

I need oxygen, in your brain it’s crying out Help!

I need oxygen – Now!

You feel good because-

Your Loved One is ok, they have oxygen.

Then you grasp your own oxygen mask…

 You start to breathe in…

Thinking everything is ok…

Everything goes black.

Who can you help now?

 

In a life threatening experience like a plane crash everyone understands –

To put your own mask on first don’t they?

Or is that the reason we have in-flight training every time we get into a plane!

Is it because…

We don’t have this automatic response to naturally help ourselves before helping our Loved One?

CarefortheCaregiver.org

Is about helping you discover linking to your own oxygen masks, Understanding vital Information to help you, now and in the long term. Latest News & Education, on how to Care for the Caregiver.

Remember helping ourselves first, before helping our Loved One, doesn’t seem natural, yet it is critical, in every lifesaving situation!

 

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are Innovative

Informal Caregiver to Informed Caregiver?

So what is the difference? Between an Informal Caregiver & an Informed Caregiver?

Skills in Caregiving & Caring for the Care Giver! 

All skills in life are learned like:-

  •      Walking,
  •      Holding a pencil,
  •      Colouring,
  •      Reading,
  •      Writing,
  •      Riding a bike or
  •      Driving a car.

And learned skills take time and practice to become capable, often with a few scratches, bumps and bruises to heal or repair.

Who are the Encouragers, Mentors or Coaches Today?

In the good old days, a Caregiver would see how to Care for a Loved One by watching and being encouraged by a family member, mentored by a neighbor or coached by other people around them, as many other family & community members would be doing the same thing, caring for their Loved One.

Today Caregivers often don’t have other family members to encourage them, or neighbors or other people to Mentor them in Caregiving. They don’t see how other people care for their loved ones because caregiving is often hidden away, they stay in their space or room.

When they are at work, it’s often not appropriate to talk about what’s happening at home.

Big Hidden Secret

So Caregiving becomes a big hidden secret.

Which cannot be talked about at work, because it’s unprofessional!

Which cannot be talked about at home, because that’s where it’s all happening!

So Caregivers try to talk to their  friends about this perhaps growing frustrated part of their lives, and their friends can only take so much!

So the Big Hidden Secret – Stays Secret. We are only as well as our deepest secret. 

Informal Caregiver Risks

Primary (Main) Caregivers and their families may be in constant Crisis Mode.

Because Caregiving can become this unacceptable, unspoken, unexpressed part of their life.

 So an Informal Caregiver can bottle up their emotions of caregiving until they can become stressed, depressed or even burnt out and worst case scenario, may even end up in hospital themselves with caregiver burden, the Loved One who they were caring for, needing to handle change as well as, missing their Caregiver ?

Why?

Because the Caregiver had no avenue to express their hurt, anger, frustration or pain and they can implode and then the Critical Caregiver needs Critical Care themselves.

So how can we prevent this from happening?

Great question!

That is what CarefortheCaregiver.org is all about!

5 Ways to Break the Silence!

  1. It’s time to Express how You Feel! No More Secrets! Other people cannot read your mind. You need to Inform other people how you are travelling, even if it is to a stranger. Remember you can also journal your journey. 
  2. Take time with your Family to Have a Family Meeting where the Caregivers can sit & talk openly to family who are personally or distantly involved in a safe environment. Based on the latest research family are the “best support” during this time of Caregiving. (Unless you have no close relatives, then connecting with friends & neighbours who can support you at this time.) Scheduling time for You to Care for the Caregiver is Critical Now and in the future!
  3. Get a Care for the Caregiver Mentor/Coach or someone who will take the time to listen to the challenges and be a sounding board for your Caregiver Journey.
  4. Learn Lots and Become an Informed Caregiver become aware, knowledgeable & trained.
  5. Find a Safe Space to express Your emotions & pain, so you don’t bottle it up and implode, so you can stay healthy throughout your caregiving experience.

Create a great day!

 

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to say Linked, Informed & Educated & Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the world.

P.S. Your Creative!

Are You an Informed Caregiver?

So what is an Informed Caregiver?

Great Question!

Lets take a closer look at Informed Caregiver Definition

A person who is aware, knowledgeable & trained about Caregiving.

A person who is clued-up in information, well-versed in the facts, up to date in the latest skills & knowledge needed for Caregiving a Care-Receiver (family member or friend) often can be considered – awareness in the risks, learned in knowledge & understanding in the practical skills – may be deemed skilled because they are trained and knows how to care for the caregiver!

An Informed Caregiver is someone who has gone outside the standard box of expectations.

Searched for the important information, needed by a Caregiver and the Loved One/Care Receiver to live life.

Understand that things are continuously changing & are often improving so you can be prepared for changes and aware of the improvements, connecting with the world for your Loved One/Care Receiver.

Aware of the Risks involved in Caregiving and has implemented strategies to counteract those risks. Daily, Weekly, Monthly & Yearly. For the benefit of You the Caregiver taking Care of the Caregiver and your Loved One/Care Receiver, taking Care of their needs, physically, emotionally, socially etc.

Remembering to care for the whole world includes caring for You to!

You need to Care for Your needs, physically, emotionally , socially etc.

Understand or willing to learn the Practical Skills needed in Caring for the Caregiving.

There  are so many ways to discover these, 1 on 1, 1 on group, 1 on online, 1 on courses – Reading, watching others, talking with others, TV, YouTube, Membership Sites etc…

It is vitally important to realise you are not alone in this, there are on average 1 in 5 homes in your street who are caring for a Loved One/Care Receiver.

How can we break the silence!? Talk, Txt, Email, Write to someone today!

Well Done You have started!

Remember Transforming from being a Informal Caregiver to an Informed Caregiver starts with You!

 

Create a Great Day!

 

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember stay – linked, informed and educated & bring hope, health and happiness to this world.

P.S. You Are an Incredible!

 

Are You an Informal Caregiver?

So What is an Informal Caregiver?

Great question!

Lets take a closer look at Informal Caregiver…

A person who is untrained, un-knowledgeable & unaware about Caregiving.

A person who is untrained in the facts, un-knowledgeable in the information, unaware in the results or best practices in care & the skills needed for Caregiving a Care-Receiver (family member or friend) at Home – may be deemed unprofessional because they are Care giving re-actively -making it up as they go or on the fly.

The interesting statistic is there are on average 1 in 5 homes who are Informal Caregiver Homes!

In each of those home is a Caregiver Family, supporting a Loved One/Care-Receiver.

So for every 100 people you walk past at the shops 20 people are currently care giving a relative, or friend Now!

For some strange reason – Informal Caregivers seem ashamed to be seen.

Everything is done alone, out of sight, behind closed doors.

There is no need for anyone to go through this alone and no glory in trying.

When in fact what is required is not just a private sympathy & toleration but a public acknowledgement & proactive assistance.

There is like a silent army of Caregivers swimming in an invisible crowd of Caregivers everyday!

Because No one wants to talk about their Caregiving!

It’s almost a Cultural Challenge.

How Can We be Proud of Care giving!?

How can we stand tall, because we choose to be Caregivers?

How can we speak to others about our lives?

How can we break the silence!?

Well Done You have started!

Remember Transforming from being a Informal Caregiver to an Informed Caregiver starts with You!

Create a Great Day!

Annie

Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember stay – linked, informed and educated &  bring hope, health and happiness to this world.

P.S.  You Are an Inspiration!

First Blog Post for CarefortheCaregiver.org?

Mmm – So how do I start CarefortheCaregiver.org’s first blog post…?

Are you new to Caregiving or been Caregiving for a while?… (yes, that is why I’m looking on this page)… Or

The stats on Caregiving are 1 in 5 households care… no falling asleep…statistics always put me to sleep… Or how about…

Due to the aging population, there will be a need to double the number of caregivers by the year 20… when? Who Cares? Care factor ‘0’…

In the beginning… no too far back…

Caregiver Stress can affect the Caregiver in 5 key areas of life – physical, psychological, emotional, social, financial, when this happens it is called Caregiver Bur… another post maybe…

Research in Singapore shows Caregiving – doesn’t impact Caregivers the same way as in western society.Is it because it is considered a normal part of life…Singapore People are active for 10 years longer then western society – More research is needed… interesting but not quite first post stuff…

So why bother Caring for the Caregiver aren’t they too busy, doing everything for everyone else anyway?

Being a human doing! (Remember You are a human being!)

Trying to care for there Care Receiver/ Your Loved One,

Trying to care for your family too! (if you have one or connecting because you are part of one!),

Trying to care enough at work to make ends meet,

Trying to do …(so many things)?

There should be no need for anyone to go through Caregiving alone and no glory in trying. It’s Important to stay Linked.

For some reason we seem ashamed to be seen, doing the job of Caregiving. It’s time to stand up and be proud of All that You Do!

Caring for Your Care-Receiver/Loved One at this time is a honor, protecting & helping them is a gift, only you can give from your heart, this opportunity is more valuable then a precious jewel.

As Caregivers we face our own version of the nameless problem. To do our job alone and out of sight, what in fact requires not just private sympathy and toleration but public acknowledgement and proactive assistance! We need to get Educated about the truth of Caregiving and How to Care for the Caregiver!

As Caregivers we are swimming in an invisible crowd of caregivers everyday, 1 in 5 homes are caring for a Care-Receiver/Loved One. Stay Informed!

Anyway, the reason you are so important – beside you being you!

Is because you are the Critical Connection between You and Your Care-Receiver – Your Loved One and the World!

When you understand how important You are – You inspire me!

Remember – You are a Critical Connection!

Create a Great Day!

Annie Born 🙂

Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember stay – linked, informed and educated &  bring hope, health and happiness to this world.

Annie Born Founder of CarefortheCargiver.org

P.S. You are Amazing!