Caregiver Stress Part 8

Ever caught a plane?

You are about to take off, the engine is loud, the wheels are moving.

Then finally quiet, you are safely in the air.

You are glad it made it safely in flight.

Except for some minor air turbulence,

And the natural movement in the air,

It’s a beautiful day!

The seatbelt light comes on – It’s time for landing already.

With a slight rough landing –

The plane finally stops.

You breathe a sigh of calm relief.

It is a safe trip.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, Today lets look at Emotional

Ever felt – overwhelmed, overloaded or overburdened emotionally?

You are a Caregiver.

Research found that Caregivers feel some form of Emotional Stress at some point during their Care giving.

It’s Ok!

It’s natural!

Change is the only thing constant in life!

There can be so many things to monitor, So many things to care for, So many things to organise, sometimes, caring for your own emotional needs are missed.

On challenging days are you noticing…

You eating or sleeping more or less then usual?

You spontaneously crying, feeling low energy, emotional numbness?

You feeling Anxiety, Out of control, Irritable, Angry or Resentment?

You Not remembering as usual, Difficulty concentrating or Making decisions?

If these symptoms continue, have a chat to your Doctor or Health Professional.

62% of Caregivers of all ages work full or part time and then come home to work up to an additional 36 hours a week, almost as much as an additional full time job!

Also as Caregivers emotions can interfere a lot with you social life & household chores.

As a Caregiver you need to avoid setting yourself up for an unhealthy future, if your not prepared. you can be setting yourself up for poor health.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

Yet when you are aware – You can make little changes to help.

Who or What helps you feel grounded?

Write Who is Your Lifeline? – who can you go and have a chat with, who when you said goodbye, you breathe a sigh of calm relief, because everything feels right with the world again?

Remember you are a critical connection for you & your Loved One!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are open!

Caregiver Stress Part 7

Remember walking on a fence that is taller, then the ground the person you are walking with is walking?

You are balancing to stay walking on the fence at the same speed as the other person.

Sometimes you even ask the person you are walking with – for help!

To get across a tricky space in the fence.

Sometimes you may even loose your balance and gravity wins and you fall off the fence.

And you jump back up on the fence to keep balancing, knowing you are safe.

Then all of a sudden the fence ends or you decide to walk with the other person, not the same focus on balancing needed.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, also. Today let’s look at Psychological.

Ever felt like your circumstances of caregiving were unexpected?;

Do you feel unprepared for caregiving?;

Do you feel like there was nothing you could do to prevent you becoming the caregiver from happening?

Research found that 52% of Caregivers feel some form of Psychological Stress at some point during their Care giving a Loved One.

It’s Ok!

It’s natural!

Change is the only thing constant in life! 

There can be so many things to monitor, So many things to care for, So many things to organise, sometimes, caring for your own psychological needs are missed.

Psychological Stressors can be hard to pick.

Because it’s often in a look or a word, or silence.

Remember at challenging times.

  • Stick to daily routine,
  • Break large jobs into smaller, manageable tasks,
  • Find activities that make you feel better,
  • Allow yourself to feel what you feel, when you feel it.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

If challenges persist talk with your doctor or health professional

Yet when you are aware – You can make little changes to help.

What or Who helps balance you?

Write down Your Psychological Lifelines?

Remember you are a whole person, with many gifts, talents & dreams!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are steady!

Caregiver Stress Part 6

Have you ever had a guest stay at your house for longer then the comfortable 3 days?

Research shows, usually after about 3 days, people can get on your nerves, your toes, or both.

Some days it can feel like the last straw of the day!

Perhaps you suggest, to your guest, possible outings or places to visit.

And when it’s time for your guests to go home,

It’s been a lovely time together,

And you are glad to see them get safely to their home

You get a moment to breathe a sigh of relief!

Because, Life is back to normal!

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One. 

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors also. Today, let’s look at one often forgotten area “Physical.”

Your place is your castle, isn’t it?

Sometimes it’s not easy to just have your place as you want it.

You have visitors come for a meal or to stay,

And it can be awkward at times, because your Loved One,

Doesn’t always understand social norms.

So your physical place isn’t always your own safe space.

And sometimes your physical space isn’t always a safe space for your Loved One & Visitors.

These are considered the Health Hazards of helping a Loved One.

Yet when you are aware – You can make little changes to help.

What are some ways you can create and have some safe space just for you?

Who is your Lifeline, who can you call on, to help, at a moments notice to help you care for your Loved One, for a few minutes for a quick interruption or appointment or a day or two for a hospital visit or weekend mini holiday?

Remember your physical space is important too!

Having the support you need is critical for Your Care!

Write a list of Who are Your Lifelines?

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are tangible!

Caregiver Stress Part 5

Have you ever looked at a tree from the inside?

Each cell, is inter-connected, each membrane is joined.

The point of stress inside the bark is incredible.

A craftsperson sees this only when they split a piece of timber in two.

As the saw cuts the timber down the middle – the stress within the timber is released.

And a piece of timber can go from 1 straight piece of timber.

To 2 naturally bendy pieces of timber.

Just due to the stress in the timber.

Stress, is another word for tension. Yet, often we see it as only negative stress.

Without tension, we would not get anything done, no pressure, no deadlines, no goals.

There is positive stress too, which makes us feel good when we are accomplishing tasks, helping others, making friends, connecting with family. Playing the perfect concert.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One.

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, Physical, Psychological, Emotional, Social and Financial (we will look at these soon in the series).

You have amazing skills – think about all the things you are naturally good at? you are talented, you have a gift, you have a knack, you can do, you are handy, pick up a pencil, color, read, write, ride a bike, drive a car, talk on a phone, make an appointment, your success strategies, your problem solving results, your communication & negotiating skills, Every part of who you are today, up to this point in life has prepared you for this moment of Caregiving.

Today write down 5 skills you can cut through life with today?

Remember you were created to be you!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are united!

Caregiver Stress Part 4

Have you ever looked at a bridge, through engineers’ eyes?

There is the foundation, the strength, the span, the groundwork, the underpinning, the footings, the reinforcement, the support structure, the weight stress, the maximums, the wind pressures, the environment stressors.

That is just the designing not including…

The regulations, the approvals, the time frame, the pricing, the creating & the maintaining of the bridge all to be taken into consideration when creating and making the bridge.

Stress, is another word for tension. Yet, often we see it as only negative stress.

Without tension, we would not get anything done, no pressure, no deadlines, no goals.

There is positive stress too, which makes us feel good when we are accomplishing tasks, helping others, making friends, connecting with family. Creating the structured bridge.

In caregiving, there can be many positive stressors – you bring skills, knowledge & abilities to caregiving, you can feel good about – Self Esteem, Helping, Appreciation, Caring & Giving Back to your Loved One.

In caregiving, there can be many negative stressors, Physical, Psychological, Emotional, Social and Financial (we will look at these soon in the series).

You have amazing knowledge – think about all your life experience, life knowledge, knowledge about you & your Loved One. You are open to learning and discovering new things, you are willing to search out new information; you are willing to understand this project of Caregiving at this time. Remember this is an opportunity and opportunities come and go, this too will pass. Now, today – this is your time to shine!

Today write down all the things you know/your knowledge you can use as your foundation today?

Remember you were created to also be a supporter for You and Your Loved One!

 Create a great day!

Annie Born

Author & Founder of CarefortheCaregiver.org

Remember to Stay Linked, Informed & Educated to Bring Hope, Health & Happiness to the World.

P.S. You are foundation!